Many Five children can attest to the fact that they received no meaningful interaction, emotional connection, or much affection from caregivers. Conversely, there is a possibility that the child had overbearing parent(s) and felt invaded by way of their space. The child then put up a mask (their defence) that came in the form of avoidance and keeping quiet whenever there was intrusion. They built their own imaginary walls and retreated into their own mental space, where they formed their own opinions and found ways to process feelings and events inside their mind.

• Fives are able to be objective observers, patiently taking in and viewing life objectively without judgment. It sometimes seems like they have no opinion until you ask the unassuming Five, who will then unfold the depth of their thinking.

• They can come to a thorough perceptive understanding of situations, figuring out the cause and effect of an argument with deep logic and clear explanations.

• Fives are self-sufficient and simple in taste and lifestyle, and unbothered by lavish pleasures, social norms and people’s perception of them. Status and material possessions play a secondary role in their life though it has been seen that they do enjoy good food – test this theory with Fives as it seems to hold true.

• Fives can easily compartmentalize difficult emotions and contain them in a box, not allowing this box to affect other aspects of their life. Hence, they are the calmest and coolest in a crisis situation or in arguments. They stay in their heads and work out a logical explanation when the going gets tough

Any type becomes Unresourceful when they begin to over-do some of the thoughts and behaviours that are typical of the type.

• The strength of calm can also be a weakness in relationships, as they can be bystanders and appear quite emotionless or passive. Such a cool exterior can sometimes be mistaken for indifference or lacking care.

• Though they are deep and insightful, the depth of their insights are seldom heard as they will not offer them freely.. It is unsurprising that they can appear shy and lack confidence in situations where they can actually shine.

• Fives are usually not confrontational, preferring to keep to themselves or be around those who are capable of stimulating their attention through deep conversation or insights on topics that interest them. Hence, they can come across as arrogant or a “know-it-all” when they are confident about what they know, even when that is not their intention at all.

• Fives like their space and so experience deep discomfort when they feel obligated to be in the company of those they care for. This can range from family to work relationships. They are highly introverted and can sometimes seem socially awkward.

• They can assume a poker face in order not to look afraid or get any attention. As a result they sometimes get no attention, which they prefer, but this can result in not getting recognized for work or ideas which can be a boon to their progress in society.

• Engage emotionally with people and practice being present with others. It will nurture the ability to connect and build confidence to communicate the great ideas that nestle in your mind.

• You are probably least tuned in to your body because your mind is very active. Realize that the mind works best when the whole body functions well and that includes your emotional self as well. Taking care of yourself through leading a balanced life and having adequate exercise makes for a well-rounded person.

• Reach out to others and seek their support. Live with an inter-dependent mindset and lessen the isolation as it shelters you from connecting with others who are different from you. Sometimes, those whom you least expect to have the deep insight that you crave, may convey their own level of depth differently. The richness of the world does not only exist in your mind. Staying open to the diversity of human expression will open up a whole new world for the Five.

• Learn to connect with your painful feelings of rejection rather than run away from it. Whatever we run away from, festers and follows. As you become more grounded by reconnecting with your feelings, let the world in and this will expand your confidence beyond the realm of theory and research.